This may be a practical solution but care away from home can be slightly more unsettling for the person with dementia simply because the surroundings will be unfamiliar, and she may be confused about why she has to stay somewhere else. Is she's upset, comfort her and reassure her. Stay calm and firm - don't feel guilty for needing a break!
- Susan Elliot-Wright, Book "When Someone You Love Has Dementia"
When choosing a home, the first thing you'll need to consider is whether your relative needs a residential or nursing home. This will depend on the level of care she needs.
PERSON-CENTERED APPROACH
A good care home should offer 'person-centered' care. This means that staff should treat the person with Dementia with dignity and respect at all times, which includes respecting the person's privacy; they should see her as an individual, and should focus on her personal qualities, abilities, interests, preferences and needs, rather than concentrating on her illness and its symptoms. -
One of the main fears in moving into a residential care is the abandonment -your relative may be afraid that you have 'put him a home' because you no longer love him or want to look after him. Reassure him that you do love him and that this is the best way for him to receive the specialized care he needs.; focus on the positive aspects - the activities, the opportunities for making new friends, the reassurance of having a trained staff around 24 hours a day
-Susan Elliot Wright, book "When someone you love has Dementia"